During most school and college farewells, students make a lots of vows to remain friends forever. Plans are made to meet regularly, message, email and call each other.
But although this does happen initially, the situation changes over time. As one's professional life begins to take up more time and effort, it is difficult to keep in touch with old friends.
Metrolife speaks to few Bangaloreans to find out how many of them have actually managed to stay in touch with their old comrades.
For Kavya Chandra, who works with an NGO, the notion of friendship changes from person to person.
She says it is difficult for people to meet their friends regularly as they are busy with their work. "Friendship is a delicate terminology. As one grows older, this relationship is put to test. It also depends on the people whom one is friends with," she notes.
However, Kavya also says that friendship needs a strong foundation to survive. "We meet people everyday and make new friends. But we don't necessarily gel with them the way we do with our school or college friends. It all depends on how much one wants to contribute to that relationship. I make it a point to meet my friends at least once every three weeks," she adds.
But Vikram Avadaani, a professional, is of the opinion that friendship has its own duration and depends on the compatibility between two people.
"I don't think we can make friendship last forever by staying in regular touch with our friends. What matters the most is compatibility and understanding between people. There are some of my friends with whom I don't communicate with for months. But whenever we meet or talk over the phone, we don't find that spark missing. But I do feel that every relationship has its duration," he opines.
Ashwin Reddy, an engineer, says that one doesn't drift away from old friends by choice. "We do not have any responsibilities when we are in school or college. It is not by choice that friends split up. We get involved in our professional life as we are loaded with responsibilities. Also, after marriage, one needs to give their full time to their family. Meeting friends once in a while is not a problem but meeting them everyday is not possible," he notes.
There are several other factors that can test one's friendship. Misunderstandings or taking friends for granted can affect the relationship. Saketh G V, an engineering student, meets his school friends once every six months.
"It's all about priority and one's mindset. If people really want to meet their friends, they will somehow take out time for them. Misunderstandings can happen often between friends. At such times, friends need to understand each other's problems rather than blame each other," he says.
But although this does happen initially, the situation changes over time. As one's professional life begins to take up more time and effort, it is difficult to keep in touch with old friends.
Metrolife speaks to few Bangaloreans to find out how many of them have actually managed to stay in touch with their old comrades.
For Kavya Chandra, who works with an NGO, the notion of friendship changes from person to person.
She says it is difficult for people to meet their friends regularly as they are busy with their work. "Friendship is a delicate terminology. As one grows older, this relationship is put to test. It also depends on the people whom one is friends with," she notes.
However, Kavya also says that friendship needs a strong foundation to survive. "We meet people everyday and make new friends. But we don't necessarily gel with them the way we do with our school or college friends. It all depends on how much one wants to contribute to that relationship. I make it a point to meet my friends at least once every three weeks," she adds.
But Vikram Avadaani, a professional, is of the opinion that friendship has its own duration and depends on the compatibility between two people.
"I don't think we can make friendship last forever by staying in regular touch with our friends. What matters the most is compatibility and understanding between people. There are some of my friends with whom I don't communicate with for months. But whenever we meet or talk over the phone, we don't find that spark missing. But I do feel that every relationship has its duration," he opines.
Ashwin Reddy, an engineer, says that one doesn't drift away from old friends by choice. "We do not have any responsibilities when we are in school or college. It is not by choice that friends split up. We get involved in our professional life as we are loaded with responsibilities. Also, after marriage, one needs to give their full time to their family. Meeting friends once in a while is not a problem but meeting them everyday is not possible," he notes.
There are several other factors that can test one's friendship. Misunderstandings or taking friends for granted can affect the relationship. Saketh G V, an engineering student, meets his school friends once every six months.
"It's all about priority and one's mindset. If people really want to meet their friends, they will somehow take out time for them. Misunderstandings can happen often between friends. At such times, friends need to understand each other's problems rather than blame each other," he says.